Every group has that one friend who just sucks at being a friend. If you can’t identify the bad apple, then it’s probably you. What are the characteristics of this dreaded individual? How can we check ourselves before we wreck ourselves?

These troublemakers are easily spotted with the following tell-tale signs. They are typically not grateful for your kindness and generosity. For example, when you give them a ride, they insult your car. Who does that? Another thing is that they start drama with other people in the group, over nothing. Or when you sit in a chair, and they yell at you for stealing “their spot.” They also share your secrets with other people; why you trusted them with the fact you still have a nightlight is beyond me. They are rude and unapologetic, just like an annoying older sibling. Honestly, the only reason they are still around is that you are too nice to kick em’ to the curb.

Does that all sound terrible? Do you want to avoid that at all cost? Here are five easy steps to be the best friend you can be.

Number one, when friends give you a ride, keep your big mouth shut about their trashy car. Buy their gross macchiato for them, or offer some gas money.  At the least, seem grateful.

Number two, don’t overreact about things. If someone is sitting in “your spot,” don’t get worked up about the fact that they can’t see your invisible claim on it.    

Number three, don’t start drama. If you are bored, instead, maybe you should do homework, for once in your life.

Number four, don’t spread secrets or rumors about a friend. So what if they sleep with a night light! You are failing three classes, so who are you to judge?

Last but not least, follow the golden rule. It may seem childish, but it’s true. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Or at least pretend you enjoy their company, no matter how hard that is.

If you’re reading this and it is making you realize that you are the bad friend in the group, try to find something nice to do for your friends. It’s better to do something now before it gets too late. Don’t take your friends for granted. They are the people who will help you through high school and beyond.